Nosaiba Al Khazraajia
Umm Ammara
In our continuing series about exemplary women in Islamic history, Sheikh Faris Ali Al Mustafa turns the spotlight on Nosaiba
Manifesting the Spirit of Islam
Ours is an age of decline and absurdity, an epoch of intrigue with only
a faint memory of morality, honour and dignity. Today's badges of pride
are betrayal, ingratitude and cowardice. Money and sensuality are the
false gods of materialistic men, so what fool would expect that a female
in our lost epoch might find respect?
Woman has become a mockery, a spiritless doll, a victim of modern
morality focused on the trivial instead of the supreme. The best skin
care products and a nip here and a tuck there are essential. The motto
of the liberated is flaunt it baby! What kind of silly female could
imagine actually using her breast to nourish a baby, as her assets might
start drooping. As a matter of fact, who even wants those little
nuisances around anyway? There's much more important things to pursue in
a busy career and social life.
How different from these wayward fashions was Nosaiba Al Khazrajia. She
was fortunate to live at the time when Almighty God graced the Arabs
with the Holy Word. Her family were among the earliest Muslims.
Her brother Abdullah bin Kaab al Mazani fought with the Prophet in the
crucial Battle of Badr, while her second brother Abdul Rahman was one of
those devout early believers who would burst into tears when listening
to the first recitations of the Holy Quran.
Nosaiba herself fought at the Battles of Aqaba, Ohoud, Hodaiba, Hunain
and Al Yamama. The journals of the early believers do not rave about the
beauty of her hair or the colour of her eyes or the smoothness of her
skin. Instead many words have been written about the true values of
womanhood which shone from her. Her glory was her courage and honour.
The Prophet held this dear Woman of Distinction in such high esteem that
he compared her piety and devotion to that of the greatest of his
companions. In our so-called advanced civilisation, today's modern woman
takes pride only in her physical beauty. Woe betide the poor soul who
finds no envy or lust in the eyes of those who behold her! Her social
role is to compete with friends to grab the latest fads of expensive
perfumes and facial creams.
She doesn't even realise that her mindless pursuit of artificial beauty
will leave nothing in her soul as a reward for old age. Nothing that is
except the terror of the wrinkled signs of approaching death.
The courage of Nosaiba shone forth when it counted most, which was in
the defence of her new religion. During a battle against the
non-believers, she suffered so many deep cuts that her wounds required
one painful year to heal. When the call to arms came again, she tried to
join the ranks of the faithful, but she failed because she was bleeding
so much.
A chronicle of the early wars described how she and her husband and sons
and a few companions struggled bravely to protect the Prophet who was
being attacked. The enemy greatly outnumbered the Muslims, and some of
their companions were abandoning the field of honour!
The Prophet shouted to one of the cowards to throw his shield to Nosaiba
so that she could defend herself. The battle was fierce, for the Muslims
were on foot fighting for their lives against mounted soldiers.
At one point a horsemen galloped to Nosaiba and tried to slash her with
his sword, but she fended off the blow with the shield. Twisting around
as the beast charged past her, she wounded its hind leg and the fighter
was thrown to the ground. Both she and the Prophet then leaped on the
the infidel to slaughter him, dispatching him to his judgement. These
are the sort of stories which true believers should grow up on, not
advertisements for pretty new shades of lipstick! After such gory
escapades, the legend of Nosaiba's courage grew. Men quavered in their
sandals in front of her, in awe of her holy fury. Mohammed bin Yahya bin
Habban wrote in the chronicle of the Battle of Ohod that this female
battle axe received eleven wounds, and at the Battle of Yamama her hand
was cut off. Her bloody stump was a badge of honour.
When Nosaiba was in Medina between campaigns, the Caliph Abu Bakr used
to visit her often to encourage her. Even that token of respect could
not make any easier the ultimate sacrifice for a mother, which was the
life of her son. Abdullah had come to the aid of his brother fallen
under the sword of the unbeliever Museilama, but fell himself mortally
wounded. The mother cherished her son's martyrdom. She offered it
proudly to the holy struggle to establish the Word.
Again and again I am overwhelmed by the utter contrasts between the
modern day and the exploits of the early believers. What would our
learned sociologists and psychologists comment about the motivation of a
woman willing to sacrifice her life as Nosaiba did? What type of energy
fires a human being to find ecstasy in suffering? Indeed, what is the
proportion of holy power that would bind a family together to seek their
holy annihilation?
I can find no answer in logic. The answer lies only in one sublime word.
Islam. It is such an easy answer, for the definition of a Muslim is one
who submits to the Creator. The surrender of a puny will to the infinite
opens the source of joy which has no parallel.
The pure of heart can distinguish between truth and falsehood, good and
evil. What little distraction to cleansed souls are the enticements of
ads and the seducements of marketing. Women! Listen! Please! Free
yourselves from false messengers and false gods. Allow the story of the
Woman from Khazraj to inspire you to seek the blessed beauty of the
Divine.